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Archive for May, 2009
Family
May 28th
This past weekend I spend some time with my wife’s side of the family in Pietermaritzburg. Let’s just call a spade a spade and say that we don’t particularly like each other…In fact, that is quite an understatement. You see, my wife and I and in fact, her side of the family, are seen as the dark horses, the unequally yoked part of the egg, the thorn amongst the roses…
My wife and her sister get along very nicely when they are sperated by the 600 or so kilometres between joburg and maritzburg. Consequently, I do not get along too well with her or her husband. The thing is, that we couldn’t be more different really. They are the uber rich, private bording school, learn to horseride and play golf types whereas my wife and I are from humble beginnings, have huge opinions that we don’t mind sharing and throw caution to the wind on most matters in life.
They think we are stupid and childish and we think they are pompass, anally retentive old prudes.
I guess the challenging thing about family get togethers is actually getting the family together really…not physically, but rather in terms of communicating constructively where jelousy, favouritism and differences don’t feature.
Never really seen it with my wife and her sister but I am sure it happens successfully for other families…
Not really any point to this post, just thinking out load 
Pietermaritzburg is a pretty place though!
Quote of the day
May 20th
“If we were to wake up some morning and find that everyone was the same race, creed and color, we would find some other cause for prejudice by noon.” – George Aiken
What’s in an age?
May 17th
There is one area of my thinking that I have been battling to over come. It seems to be around my fixation on success in a time frame.
For me, success in my passions and for that matter, even the enjoyment of my passions is stupidly, but nontheless, actually, self-limited by the time in which things are achieved or discovered.
I keep imposing limits on myself to the point where I rationlise that I am already too old (at the age of 27) to achieve what I really want to in life. I have actually managed to reason myself into believing that because many of the examples I gauge my success against, started on thier voyage at the age of 14-15, that I have somehow missed the boat by starting on this late in life. That’s the biggest pile of steamy, smelly bullshit I have ever heard!
The worst part about it all is that in deciding that I am too old, I also make myself think of what I love as a chore because of course, if I am too old, what’s the point and if there is no point, then there is no desire for the journey or the discovery.
Wow I amaze myself sometimes with how convoluted my thoughts can become…Thankfully though, I try keep myself ever vigilant on what I am thinking and why.
It’s time for a change. I can and will achieve what I want to. Age is nothing but a number or so I have heard…
It’s not me, I just can’t agree with you…
May 14th
I was having a “lively” debate with some work colleagues (“lively” because we are software developers) and this created a thought impulse…not anything to do with the topic of discussion but more around our inability to trust the opinion of those closest to us…
Is it possible that we will find every excuse in the book not to trust the people around us? Why?
Well, my theory is that if people we actually know personally, like work colleagues or even loved ones, have that great eurika moment, or even worse, they succeed at something, then the shallow amongst us feel somewhat deprived of the moment, to the point where they rationalise that thought that “OMG if he is successful and he is not Mark Shuttleworth or someone famous, then holy shit, what the fuck am I doing with my life?!”
It’s a wierd concept but I actually believe that some of those around us would rather see us fail then succeed because if we succeed, then it means it’s possible to succeed from nothing more than the same as what we are made of…which is quite scary if you haven’t succeeded yet…
